The reasons I dought Chip are that I have never been to where he lives (2 hours away form me) this was becasue he is sepatated from his wife and I didnt want to visit until they were officially divorced. Anyway she has apparently told him that she will do anything she can to split us up and has rang me claiming that she is still with him and that they had no problems until he et me, a claim he strongly denies. I cant visit now and put an end to all of this as his child (who is not his wifes) is very poorly and in hospital. I have supported him through this as much as I feel I can but had another phone call form his wife a week or so ago and when I told her I did not think this was an approprite time to be doing this she asked why when I commented on his child being ill she told me there was nothing wrong with him, called my a pscho and hung up ! He is genuinley upset that she said this, who wouldnt be, but I am at a vunerable point in my life right now - for other swides to the story - and feel, on one hand, so guilty for not trusting him, and on the other so mixed up as to whether I can or not.